Nuff Nuff

Thursday, October 1, 2009

If you were hit by a bus tomorrow…………

And you were to depart this mortal earth. What would happen to your emails, your facebook account, you twitter account?

Does your online presence suddenly become inactive and your inbox full?

Have you left instructions for your partner, children or parents to act upon if something was to happen?

Are your passwords written down somewhere that is easily located?

Have you even thought about this?

I had an online friend, who had been sick for sometime, I knew that things weren’t brilliant, but I didn’t expect “D” not to be around.

I had replied to an email that had been sitting in my inbox for maybe 2 weeks, I did not receive an immediate reply, which is not unusual with online friends.

After about 3 weeks, I started trying locate “D” using the information that I had. I found out that she had belonged to various groups and subsequently I emailed said groups. I did not receive a reply.

It must have been about 2 weeks later that I received a reply from “D’s” daughter saying that “D” was no longer with us and that the email account would be shut down within a 1-2 week time-frame. I am assuming this was to allow people like myself to get answers as to why “D” was not responding emails.

The reply I received was fairly bland, just stating the facts. I suppose having known “D” online for 2-3 years, I expected something more personal. I’m not sure, but even now it leaves me sad that I didn’t have a proper chance to say goodbye – even if it was sending flowers or a card to the funeral.

I wonder what happened to “D’s” memberships to forums and the like where she had groups of friends that she knew. I wonder what happened to people like me – who knew her and we shared to jokes, the good times and the bad. Was everyone advised of “D’s” demise, or were emails just bounced back when the email address became inactive?

Have you taken precautions to ensure that your online friends are advised when there is a problem or when you may not be able to respond any longer?
Have you shown those that will be responsible for your affairs after your demise, how to access all your groups and facebook accounts and say goodbye?

Have you formatted a goodbye?

I have all the URL’s and passwords written down in a notebook, but I haven’t shown, nor told anyone.

My darling husband has no idea how to switch the computer on let alone log in and send a message.

I think my will is going to have an added extra piece of paper stuck inside the front cover tonight – stating my ‘other’ wishes, not abidable by law, but certainly something that has to be done upon my death.

And what happens to my domain names? – are they allowed to expire and there be no more me on the net – or will in 20-30 years time, people pursuing the family history only to find references to me that look and perhaps feel current?

The weirdness of it all – oh what to do?

3 comments:

Cathie said...

There's been quite a bit of discussion on this subject of late - I blogged about it here - http://theyearofthecat.com/2009/05/13/ghosts-of-the-cyber-dead.
I think you're right in suggesting we need to put some plans into place to help our nearest and dearest cope with our digital real estate as well as our physical assets. Interesting post!

It ain't so (most of the time) said...

Thanks Cathie, I still haven't added that extra piece of paperwork to the will, of which the ink is still fresh.

I know I should, but it seems so final and yet I should do it - I have lost so many people in the last 8 months (yesterday) that it is scary.

It ain't so (most of the time) said...

Hi again Cathie - I just read your post - and somehow found another on the same topic - you are right - this subject seems to be trending - is that because those of us that do blog are of the age, whereby we may shuffle off this mortal earth anytime soon?

Not sure - but 3 blogs sighted on the same day - WOW.